Grace Massoud wrote this article in MTV website:

Jefferson Fisher, a Texan trial lawyer, whose amazing content I consume regularly on Instagram, recently sat down for a juicy conversation with the famous podcast host Mel Robbins. This man has made a name for himself by sharing his tips on effective communication in a most relatable way from the front seat of his car.

He shared valuable nuggets on the untapped power of words, and how to use them to mold who we want to be and how we want to show up in the world.

First things first, tell the person you’re conversing with the qualities you would like them to have and they will rise to the occasion. Frame the conversation, the topic to cover and the end goal.

When talking to someone you don’t care for, go neutral. Don’t show dislike, because onlookers will not know the backstory and you don’t want to give anyone a reason not to like you. Be as succinct as possible.

Once an individual attempts to belittle you, either repeat what they said, or make them say it again, or ask questions of intent like: did you say that to embarrass me?

They’re not going to repeat it, and that way you would take the fun out of it by not giving them a reaction, which would’ve triggered a hit of dopamine. 

Silence is the perfect answer to disrespect. A long silence to make it uncomfortable for them, seeing as they were trying to get a rise out of you. Then say a little something like this: That’s below my standard for a response. They will sense that you have shifted the power dynamic.

When someone you love is behaving in a disagreeable way, set a standard. Be their biggest mirror so that they adjust their demeanor. A highly effective way to get what you want is separating the person from the problem, saying: I feel instead of, I think. Go ahead and ask for their help, people love that and would jump at the chance. For example, I have a need for this house to be clean, I need your help with that. 

The best piece of advice when it comes to communication is to serve it to them straight and don’t water it down. When you have something to say, take a breath, say that this is not something I’m comfortable with, then just utter what you want to relay.

No more diminishing your words before you communicate them, no more over apologizing, no more beating around the bush. We usually do this thinking people don’t have the emotional resiliency to handle what we have to say. It will earn you more respect, more admiration and make you sound much more confident when you eliminate the water.