Grace Massoud wrote this article in MTV website:

Dating is hard. It can be downright exhausting for a single gal to rummage through the mess of men out there to find a keeper. Will I stop putting myself out there though? Heck no. We are all aware of the wonderful highs and pleasurable companionship a healthy love will add to our life. 

There is a way though to get better at this game of love. Cut the bad ones off early. Once a red flag rears its ugly head, move on. This is what makes a group of women successful at dating and another group not so much. It is definitely not that a group avoids the bad ones and another goes out with them. We’ve all dated some doozies in our time am I right?

Do not, I repeat, do not linger on a red light. Cut your losses and move on. When someone you like tells you they don’t feel ready for a relationship, that is an instant gigantic red flag. They are basically letting you know that they are not only evaluating your compatibility with them, they are pondering whether or not they want to be in a loving committed relationship in the first place. That’s a big warning sign of danger up ahead. 

Let’s not deplete ourselves by remaining at a red light and trying to move. All it will accomplish is built-up resentment towards our partner from inflicted pain and too much time and energy gone to waste. That right there is a green light in another direction, where your efforts would be put to good use, where the person would be worthy of your investment.

Mustering the nerve to move on quickly takes knowing your worth very well, having inner strength and confidence. Leave as soon as you see why the relationship is going to eventually end, don’t wait six months or six years. Go out and pick someone who will be good for your mental and emotional health and invest in him. Don’t choose the devil you know.

In a famous interview with Oprah, Maya Angelou rightfully said: “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.” They know themselves much better than you do. So why don’t we all save ourselves the heartache and believe them when they tell us: “I’m selfish, I’m a mean bastard, I don’t really give much thought to other people and their needs”. They are telling us something significant about themselves having no reason whatsoever to lie to us.

Heed their warning and run for the hills.